Changing Your Negative Reactions

05/09/2009 in General | 1 comment

Inhibition – Out with the Old, In with the New

An important concept that I learned from Alexander Technique and then incorporated into my Game and Sub-Communications work, was a process called Inhibition.

“Inhibition is the process of pausing before an Action- giving us the necessary time to register “How” we are preparing for an activity and therefore the opportunity to change our Habitual Reaction.“

For the purspose of learning this invaluable process, let me make an important distinction between to very similar concepts:

Reaction = Unconscious – Habitual
Response = Conscious – Selected
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A few years ago when I was just starting out I had one of the most important realisations I’ve had in Game. I was with Mr M and we couldn’t have come from more different starting points; Mr M was a Lawyer and very Logical and Analytical and I was an Actor living by that old adage “Acting is Reacting” and always looking to React in the moment. Two polar ends of the spectrum!

As he is notorious for(And one of the reasons he got good so quickly), Mr M asks me what I did in a set that went “well”, I said “Dude, I’m just in the moment and do whatever comes to mind” he replied “You can’t just live in the moment completely, how do you take the interaction forward and lead it to where you want it to go”

At the time I remember thinking “This Dude doesn’t have a clue, you can’t be strategic when you’re in the field you have to live in the moment.”
Then it hit me. I was having great interactions, lots of fun, energy and excitement but I wasn’t getting laid!

I went back on what Mr M was saying and whilst in an Alexander class at Drama school, it all came together. I realised I wasn’t Responding in the moment, I was Reacting and with those Reactions came unpredictable and uncontrollable results. I then realised that you needed both a map of where you’re heading and the ability to live in the moment.

“By stopping our habitual reactions we give ourselves a chance to make a choice how we’ll do things. As our mental attitude changes, there is a chance to break our habits.“

A word on Learning Game
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When starting out and learning anything new, you’re going to be a little stiff and artificial at first then as you practice and gain agility your fluidity increases and things that once were difficult, become smooth and unconscious, “Habits”.

It’s the same in the field.

If you take a look at most of the guys now solely advocating “Natural” Game they have all gone through the lines and routines, the robotic behaviour as they analysed what they were doing.

Take it from an Actor who was spontaneous in the field and living in the moment, You need to go through the process of being out of sync, you need to go through the process of being slightly robotic and having things prepared to say to spike your conversation. You need to have an eye on the Emotional Progress Model, your map and how to get to the final destination. You need all these things and if you haven’t been through that and try to go “Natural” straight of the bat, you’re shooting yourself in the foot and limiting the potential impact of your interactions and also how attractive you can become as a man in general.

Routines in the beginning are as much about learning the “Vibe” of Attractive Behaviour and Conversation as they are about having stuff to say. Once you’ve got a feel for this “Vibe” you’ll then be able to have “Normal” Conversations and still keep the “Vibe” running underneath, appearing “Natural.”

Breaking a Bad Habitual Reaction
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The process of Inhibition becomes your most valuable Ally in the field when it comes to learning Attractive Behaviour.

Below is a process I teach for changing your habitual Reaction but you have to go through the discomfort of stepping out of the moment slightly in order to break the bad Reaction and choose a more effective Response.

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Become conscious of its existence

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I became aware of what was happening to my body when circumstances arouse which gave me a nervous Reaction. I’d put myself in all kinds of environments and become conscious of how I was Reacting to the stimuli.

For example, when I got AA it was a Physical Reaction, my heart would start beating faster, my temperature would increase and my breathing would get shallow. Now when it comes, it’s just a mental block that I overcome simply by making the decision to man up and take Action.

I observed all these things and brought them to my consciousness.

When I was walking past a hot girl on the street my walk would get all fucked up, my rhyme would go and my eyes would flicker all over the place, trying not to seem as though I was checking her out. Again, I brought this to a level of consciousness so that I could gain control of it.

Your Reaction may not be distracting movements it may be that you just freeze and do nothing and think you are being “Non-reactive” and are just being “Passive”, whatever it is use the process below to highlight and eliminate it.

ACTION STEPS
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1. Make a list of the circumstances where you have negative reactions and note what happens to you.

Examples are:
• Approach Anxiety – Sweaty Palms, Increased Temperature
• Shit Tests – Laughing Nervously
• Hot Girl Walking Toward Me – I start to walk funny etc…

2. Discover the Impulse

Keep putting yourself in the fire and get a feel for exact moment when you have the “Reaction” to the stimuli. Discover the impulse.

3. Say “No” – Choose to do Nothing

The Absolute first step after discovery is to say “No” to the impulse and Choose to do Nothing. This means rejecting the negative Reaction. This will seem weird at first because you’ll feel as if you are stopping dead in your tracks (In some cases you will) and taking yourself out of the moment. Trust me, this is necessary and what seems to you like an eternity, will actually only be a second and then a split second; but it will give you enormous power and control over yourself.

4. Choose a different Response

From the position of a blank slate you then have the option and the clarity to choose whatever Response you like including the original one. If you practice your new Response over and over you’ll eventually create a new Reaction forming a new Habit and becoming a “Natural”

**If this feels like painting by numbers it’s because it is! I never wanted to be average with women, I wanted to be exceptional, I never wanted average Women I wanted the ones that I fantasied about – That required painstaking attention to detail and now I don’t have to think about these things.**

PROCESS! PROCESS! PROCESS!

Hope it Helps,

Vercetti

Back In The U.K!

04/09/2009 in 1 | Leave a comment

I’ve made a promise to myself that I’ll not say another bad thing about the quality of the girls in London, not only are there a ton of hot girls in London but more importantly, if I have planted in my mind that the standard is low, I’ll find evidence of that. And seeing as how this is my place of residence for the foreseeable future that might not be so wise!

So…Here’s to finding the Diamonds in London!U.K Girl

Recently I’ve become obsessed with peak performance and conditioning myself for success. The more I read on the subject and the more I start to apply the new principles learned, the more I realise that this is Life or Death battle!

Coming back to London, I’ve realised I have a lot of negative anchors associated with things in my immediate environment; Destroying them and working step by step, chipping away at my “Supernova” (A term coined by Braddock and Mr M in their Life changing Inner Game Seminar) is a 24hr thing now, there’s isn’t a second to let slip!

The saying “you’re mind is a continual fight for territory” resonated with me and I really do believe it, you have to constantly be on guard for negativity, weeding the garden of your mind, doing whatever it takes to keep yourself in a productive peak state. This doesn’t mean working yourself to death but it does mean Eliminating Negativity from your life.

I’ll share with you a little technique I’ve been using to good effect for a while now; it’s from the book “The One Minute Millionaire” By Robert Allen and Mark Victor Hansen. Hope it Helps!

Linking Negative Beliefs to Physical Pain!

“Every time you think a limiting or negative or bad thought, snap your wrist with a rubber band. This interrupts your thought process and rewards the negative limiting thought with pain. Thus, you are less likely to think such a thought again.”

Or if you want to take it to take it to the next level…

Eliminate Negative Beliefs

Live Full, Live Free!

Vercetti

Dublin Bootcamp

28/08/2009 in 1 | Leave a comment

Gloriously Grand in Ireland! Yeh!

hot irish girl

Apparently the Irish women are some of the friendliest in the world! Mr M and I haven’t had the opportunity to hit the town yet but tonight should be an experience as we take the Students to meet the Lovely women of Dublin.

Red Head

GAME ON!!!

Speed Up Your Success With Women

28/08/2009 in Inner Game | Leave a comment

A common question I’m asked is “How long did it take you to get good with women?” And every time I’m unable to give a specific answer. I went through many frustrating nights coming home virtually in tears of frustration but it’s what I did in those moments that enabled me to take major steps and overcome my sticking points.

One of the most useful tools I’ve used to accelerate my learning is Creative Visualization.

In Maxwell Maltz’ book Psycho Cybernetics – which I highly recommend- He basically talks about the use of Visualization to modify and improve your Self Image; it’s extremely powerful.

Preparative - The Ideal Image


  • Create a vivid motion picture of you or someone who is awesome with women, excelling in a situation you are struggling with.

I did this prior to going out to incorporate things like High Value Sub-Communications, physical and sexual escalation and pretty much any characteristics that were eluding me.

For example: You may have seen the YouTube video of Soul and I on the Lovesystems’ Channel; that was about a year and a half ago. I had asked Soul to teach me everything he knew about Daygame and to push me to the limit, I was shitting myself! I had been a Jedi in “High End Club Game” for about 2 yrs prior to that and the thought of “crossing over” actually made me very anxious.  In order to make my transition smoother and create a Self Image that contained characteristics of a man who meets women anywhere, I had to “See” myself doing well at Day Game, Doing approaches and create an internal blueprint to guide me in the real world.

Action Step 1. Third Person – Watch the Experts in Action


  • Find a couple of “Mentors” are great in Social Interactions
  • Watch them, take note of all aspects of their interactions.
  • Find a location where you can relax, completely uninterrupted and go into semi supine position (see below)
semi supine

Ideal position for Relaxation and Releasing Tension

  • Re-run the interactions of your mentors again paying attention to all the details
  • Run an interaction this time watching yourself doing exactly what your mentor did.

Example: I’d watch what Soul in his Daygame interactions, I’d take note of EVERYTHING, how he stopped her walking, his Sub-Communications, the Words he used, how he Escalated the interaction and displayed Value etc. Then I replayed it later in my mind this time substituting Soul for Vercetti. I did this several times until I had a clear understanding of what a good, solid set looked like and more importantly, what I looked like doing a “perfect” set. I then started to throw hurdles into the interactions, like her friends or high resistance from the woman.

Action Step 2.  First Person – Become the Expert


  • Re-run the interactions, this time from a “first person” perspective: See everything through your eyes instead of standing outside of yourself and observing.
  • Make the movie simulating: Make it a complete sensory experience, engage as many of your senses as you can. Note what you See, hear, smell etc.

I created such vivid imagery that I’d actually have physical responses to the mental stimuli. That hot brunette actually made my heart beat that little bit faster, as I closed the distance and increased my sexual intent I could feel the sexual charge in my body.

I visualized myself doing approaches, adjusting my Body Posture and working on my Body Language, the way I Moved and Walked, the way I Spoke and what was going through my head at the time. I included as many of my senses as possible to create an experience as close to real life as possible. The power of the imagination never fails to amaze me.

With good relaxation you can actually create images so stimulating that you’re also able to isolate your Negative Beliefs. One of my scenarios was stopping a woman on crowded oxford street in London, as the movie went on, I could hear my old negative thoughts “Everyone is going to be watching me”, “she’s going to think I’m trying to sell her something”. From there I was able to create and upload new empowering beliefs and work on eliminating the old ones.

NOTE: THEN I WENT OUT AND PRACTISED!

Nothing happens without action and the visualizations, although extremely powerful, are not substitutions for ACTUALLY meeting women and getting your hands dirty :)

Corrective Visualizations – Correcting Course

These are EXTREMELY important, in my opinion more important than the first type. They are used at the end of the day having been out interacting and gaining reference experiences.

  • Get into Semi Supine
  • Rerun all of your interactions for that day (or choose the most significant ones)
  • Take note of all the good stuff you did first, the things that were effective, what was awesome about you, your vibe, your Sub Communications etc
  • When you get to points where the interaction stalled out, creatively resolve the sticking point.

if you can’t resolve it, ask a wing what they would’ve done. I can recall a number of times in the past where Mr M and I would talk in the morning after a wild night out and analyze interactions, overcome sticking points and correct course for success next time.


  • Replay the whole set in the ideal way, smooth, no glitches, overcoming the obstacles and tests and moving past the point where you stalled out last time.
  • Repeat this process on all your sets. You’ll be amazed at how much faster you begin to improve because using mental rehearsal triggers the same neurological responses as actually doing real life rehearsal…However holding a woman in your mind and in real life are worlds apart ;)

****Get out of your house and practice, real time***

Oslo Bootcamp Aug 09! BEASTING!

21/08/2009 in General | Leave a comment

Wow, I heard about the women in Oslo but getting here and experiencing it first hand…the Beast! is being released!

And being reunited with Navy Seal General, Aka Yoda, Aka Mr alongside Hi Roller, Damage will be done!

State – Keys To Gaining Mastery of Yourself

12/08/2009 in Inner Game | Tags: , , , , | Leave a comment

STATE


In NLP “State” refers to the overall emotional, physiological and psychological condition of an individual. There have been many things written in the community on State, does it exist? Should you be able to perform even without being “In State”? And so on.
Everything I teach is only taught after I’ve practiced and drilled personally so that I know it works, and what I’ll share below are ways to get “In State” EVERY time you need to perform at a high standard.

A “State” is made up of three layers and in order to change State all you have to do is:

1. Become aware of what you are doing at any of the layers and

2. Do something different. Simple!

The Layers are:


• Physiology
• Focus
• Language


Physiology


What are you doing with your body?

Our Bodies and Minds are connected and it is possible to affect one by doing specific things with the other.

If you remember a time when you were feeling angry, you may instantly notice where the tension forms in your body, the frown that forms, the tension in your jaw. Or when you were feeling defeated; walking around with your head down and shoulders sloping forward. Who knows which came first the state or the physical posture; it doesn’t really matter, the important thing is that it can be changed simply by doing something different.

When you sense that you’re in a “Bad State” check in with yourself and notice what you’re body is doing and change it. Lift your head up, stick out your chest and over exaggerate the posture of a confident man. You’ll find it’s very hard to stay in a “Bad State” when you change your physiology, and force yourself to do a confident posture.

Other Physiological alternatives

• Play the Animal Game – Replicate the sounds and movements of various animals

• Play Imaginary Instruments – Whatever song is on, play along to the backing track as if you’re at a concert. Drums, Guitar, Sax etc.

• Jump up and Down

These as you can see, don’t have to be logical or “sensible” in fact the more silly they are the better, as they get you out of your head and into your body and achieve the desired result…An Altered State!

Focus

On what are you focusing your attention?

If you have approach anxiety and you focus on getting rejected or whether she wants to be bothered or not, or if she has a boyfriend, then I can tell you that anxiety is not going away. If you focus on the anxiety itself and notice your handshaking or you forehead sweating then chances are that anxiety will increase tenfold.

Instead I tell students to…

Focus on your DESIRE


By Focus on your Desire I mean, instead of thinking of and focusing on all the reasons why she won’t be interested, focus on that part of you that saw her and thought “Fuck! She’s hot! I WANT HER!” Be like the kid in a candy store, going for the chocolate bar with no concern for what mummy’s saying!

This does two things

1. If your desire is anything like mine, that shit will CHARGE you! I adopted this from working extensively with Soul instructing with him on his Daygame Workshops. When he sees a woman that he’s into, he allows his desire consume him. Taking her in and delighting in all the aspects of her beauty. The way she moves with a Dancers grace, the way her hips swing from side to side, all the elements of her femininity. Then he just drifts after her like Pepé Le Pew (Without the smell and French accent of course).

2. It’s amazing how much more congruent a man becomes when he is at one with his Desire, suddenly the words and attitudes seem to come for free and the interaction becomes a lot more fun and interesting as there is a sexual charge.

Other things to Focus on

• Having fun – Try taking your focus away from what yourself, notice people in the environment, check out the guy doing the funky dances and just enjoying himself.

• Create Scenarios – With a friend come up with different back stories for people in the venue, the weirder the better.

• Have an Elastic Band round your wrist and snap it whenever you feel yourself focusing on something negative

Language


What are you saying to yourself?

Words are extremely powerful especially the words we are saying to ourselves. We have this running commentary in our heads, creating meanings and interpreting things every moment. Depending on the type of person you are you’re default will be positive empowering scripts or negative and destructive ones, with work you can change your default setting from negative to positive.

Are you telling yourself “I’m tired, I can’t be bothered to approach” “I don’t know what to say” “That’s probably her boyfriend” – These are unproductive and having these phrases running through your head at anytime would be enough to put you in an inactive and frustrated “State”.

Learn a new language!

Plan this in advance – Create empowering alternatives to use when you feel out of state. I’ve got a bunch of different things I say to myself that allow me to feel like the man before I approach or when AA creeps in. They range from “Fuck It” to “I’m Fucking Vercetti!!!” Generally anything that makes me feel like a BEAST ready to consume and dominate the situation!

Come up with things for yourself that make you feel empowered and proactive!

Productive Language

• “I’m the hero of my story!”

• “Is this interesting!” (Creates a curious state of mind, very useful)

• “STOP!!! What am I thinking” (This is great for stopping you in your tracks so that you can relax into the moment)


Take MASSIVE Action!

A lot of the time when I see students in a weak state they’re usually standing there not talking to women! The best way to get the cogs moving is to take Massive action, and by massive action I mean, do a Direct high risk approach! “Hey, you’re fucking Gorgeous, I’m V!” BAM! Adrenaline pumping, State Changed, enough said!

Personally massive action is the best step, for obvious reasons – It changes your Physiology, Focus and Language all in one go!

Hope this helps.

Vercetti

Approaching The Mixed Set

12/08/2009 in General | Tags: | Leave a comment

APPROACHING THE MIXED SET!

 

“ASSUMPTION IS THE MOTHER OF ALL FUCK UP’S!”

I decided to write this after the Miami Daygame seminar recently instructed with Soul. This topic comes up on EVERY bootcamp o r 1-1 I’ve ever done!

At minimum one student always says, I’m not opening them, “That’s probably her boyfriend”.

I want to start by first stating that I personally do not advocate taking another guys woman.  One of the main reasons I continue to learn and teach dating science is because it’s important to me to make a positive contribution. Call me old fashioned, but I love to see people happy, and being the destructive force in someone relationship does not sit well with me.

That being said, I see nothing wrong with finding out the status of a relationship in order to determine whether a beautiful woman is single and I can hit on her.

So, Soul and I are in Miami and I am walking with several students when one points out this gorgeous blond sitting at a table talking with these two guys.

One of the students asks me, “How would you approach that girl?” followed by the classic statement “That’s probably her boyfriend.”

I instantly tell him Never Assume Anything unless it’s obvious!  Unless they are holding hands, kissing or generally doing relationship stuff, you really don’t know the situation! Then I told the student to Go Find Out!

SIDE NOTE:

It is hugely important to always seek reference experiences when developing a new Habit, Belief System etc. 50% of the struggle is realizing that IT IS POSSIBLE.  The other 50% is learning that it is possible for YOU. This is why, my 1-1’s consist of me doing demos so my students see what is possible.  Then the students start taking action and being advised step by step in order to see first hand that it’s possible for them.


How do you approach the mixed group?

The number one thing to remember is to show the guys in the group RESPECT!

I have been out with my hot female friends that I have no interest in sexually and I have had so many guys come up and start talking to the girls with no acknowledgment or show of respect for me. The second this happens, I instantly cock block these guys.  On the flip side of the coin I have had guys introduce themselves, show me due respect and if he has decent game and my friend likes him, I’ll even help him.

Every guy can relate to that feeling of seeing a hot woman and wanting to talk to her. However, not every guy out there can relate to the experience of actually grabbing his balls and making the approach in a coherent, non-drunken  way. Most guys out there will respect you for even attempting to approach the girls in their group  (if you acknowledge them and show them respect).  Some guys will be dicks regardless of how you approach…that’s life.

By respect I don’t mean kissing their asses.  This will have almost just a bad of a result as trying to act all tough. By respect I just mean finding out the status of the relationship.

Direct approach (Not hiding your intentions)

1. Friend

Me: “Hey lads, I had to find out…is she your girlfriend? She’s absolutely gorgeous!”

Lads: “Nah, she’s a good friend”

Me: “Yes!!! (Like a big kid) Your browser may not support display of this image. Hi, I’m Vercetti”

Game On!!! Treat the guys as if they are standard obstacles to befriend, and isolate her as soon as she is comfortable.

2. Partner

Me: “Hey lads, I had to find out…is she your girlfriend? She’s Gorgeous!”

Lad: “Yeah, check out the ring she’s my fiancé”

Me: “Fair play man, she’s beautiful, congrats man!” Aaaand I’m out!

3. Sister

Me: “Hey lads, I had to find out…is she your girlfriend? She’s absolutely gorgeous!”

Lad: “She’s my sister”

Me: “Fair play mate, no disrespect intended she just took my breath away, she’s beautiful…I’m Vercetti.”

I say all of the above loud enough for the woman to hear, I then introduce myself to the guys, then I introduce myself to her, and then I go ahead and work my magic on her.

4. Direct to the girl (Be prepared to possibly deal with heavy resistance from the guys)

V: “Hey, are any of these guys your boyfriend?”

Her: “Nah, they’re just friends”

V: Playful “Good :) You’re fucking gorgeous and I really wanted to meet you.”

Over the next few weeks go out and try both opening the guys first for a while and then go out and try opening the girl directly. I honestly switch between those two options depending on how bold I’m feeling.  Going directly to her shows less regard for the guys which displays both you’re lack of fear, but done incorrectly it can also show a completely lack of social intuition.

Remember that both approaches should be done with high value sub-communications like I described in my post.

Indirect approach (Masking your intentions until you know logistics)

1. When going indirect you want to approach the whole group and not just the girl.  Once you introduce yourself, get her name last and say to the closest guy “And what’s your girlfriends name?” (Make sure you say it loud enough for her to hear it) at which point her or the guy will answer and make the relationship status known. (Credit 5.0 for this gem)

2. The classic “How do you all know each other?” After having run standard indirect game.

So my student in Miami went in, showed the guys respect, found out the relationships status, and to his delight they were all just friends! GAME ON!!!

In Summary…


Never never assume! Go in and Find out!

Vercetti….

The Assumption Game – Created by Vercetti

12/08/2009 in Outer Game | Tags: , | 1 comment

The Assumption Game

Created by Love Systems Dating Coach Vercetti

This game is almost cheating. I was completely winging it the first time I came up with this, but it truly was a random stroke of genius.The Assumption Game is very similar to the format of the question game, but it is something that can be used much earlier in the interaction and it is something that you can keep running from start to finish!!!

I came up with this while doing high end club game.  (Side note)  another great game Mr. M and I play is “Veto.”   Veto is where you point to a hot girl and you say “veto” and your wing has to go open her, NO EXCUSES!

Yesterday, Mr. M vetos me on a 2 set of ridiculously Hot Brunettes, they have a bunch of guys floating around them and my first reaction is “Fuck! You Bastard! ”**Note** Mr M is notorious for consistently vetoing me on incredibly hot girls, although he has stopped recently…probably because I almost always end up hooking up with them and taking them off the market!

Soooo…..

I have become extremely lazy lately and this woman was actually hot enough to get my heart racing.  I go Direct, cutting through these guys hovering around them and lay it down on the hottest one:

Vercetti: “Hey, You’re fucking Gorgeous! I’m V”

Girl: Smile “Thank you, I’m Sarah”

Vercetti: “Well Sarah, I’m getting the Bouncers to throw you out!”

Girl: “What? WHY!?”

Vercetti: “Well look at the way you’re dancing, you’re teasing these poor chumps who don’t have the balls to come talk to you” Point to Chumps (Evil, I know, but fuck it, they should have taken a workshop with Lovesystems ) “You should be ashamed of yourself woman! ”

Girl: “Whaaaaat! I’m not doing anything!”

(Daxx comes in to wing the other girl, with perfect Navy Seal timing and intercepts the other girl before she interferes)

Vercetti: “You’re such a Player!”

Girl: “No I’m not, I’m a good girl!”

Vercetti:”Yeah right! You’ve got “PLAYER” written all over your forehead!” (gentle grab the back of her head and trace you’re finger across her forehead) “See!?”

Girl: Lol

Vercetti: “Actually…you know what…I believe you…Hmm that is interesting…You have really truthful eyes…At Drama School, I had this teacher who used to say that the best actors live, in truth, behind their eyes. My teacher also said that no matter what, you should never assume things about a person until you’ve had a chance to look into their eyes…and find out…who they really are.” (Find an Alternative from you’re life…”My Business Mentor/Ex-Girl Friend/Whoever used to say people live behind their eyes etc, etc…)

Girl: Look on her face like “Take me home now!”

Vercetti: “I’ll show you something cool, let’s play a game”

Girl: “Okay”

Vercetti: “It’s called the Assumption game. We have to reveal an assumption that we’ve made about each other. However there are rules…

1. We have to be totally honest
2. We can’t get mad at the assumptions
3. You go first!”


***Here is where it gets  fun and interesting***

Some of the Benefits of the Assumption Game

• You are making statements instead of asking questions, which makes the conversation flow much better.

• She becomes invested in the interaction and begins to pay closer attention to you

• The interaction becomes balanced early with both of you making a contribution, instead of you rambling.

• You demonstrate different sides of yourself directly off of her assumptions

• You can build Attraction, Qualify, Set Frames and Sexual Hoops, and Build Comfort like a Jedi!

Below are some examples of “Assumptions” I have used in various interactions. I start off lightly “Assuming” all the information I want to know without having to ask a question because she will inevitably tell me if I make an incorrect statement. Then I gradually move on to more sexual assumptions displaying my comfort and knowledge on the topic.

  • “You’re Sweedish” (Whatever Nationality you think she is)

  • “You’re fun loving and need to let your hair down, you’re dancing as if you’re shaking off a tough week”

  • “You’re very fashion conscious, very stylish”

  • “You’re independent, you seem like the type of person who sets her own rules and lead the pack rather than follow others.”

  • “You go for you want! You seem like you’re the type of woman that grabs life by the balls and makes shit happen…”

  • “You’re shy but I can also see a dangerous side of you hidden behind your eyes, like it’s waiting for a reason to burst out…”

  • “You’re Bitchy, but behind all that, there’s this sweet girlie girl who still believes in the magic of love and finding her soul mate…”

  • “You like being seduced, you’re very in touch with your feminine side…”

  • “When you’re with a man that you’re extremely comfortable with, you become sexually aggressive and can’t control yourself…”

  • “You’ve never had a full body orgasm. You carry a lot of tension in your body that traps nerve endings making it hard for you to relax and fully enjoy receiving pleasure. That’s a Shame!”


You need to be prepared to answer her “Why?” questions with answers that reinforce the frame or bait her to divulge the truth.

I have had all kinds of assumptions made about me, I find it really interesting; people’s perceptions and how close or far they are from reality.

Remember the 2nd rule however, “We Can’t get mad at the assumptions” That applies to both of you! Take everything she says at you in stride and use it an an opportunity to DHV. This game should start off light and can move through the Emotional Progression Model alongside your Physical and Logistical Progression.

Have fun, field test and then add your discoveries to this post, I’m still refining and sharpening “The Assumption Game” so it would be awesome to hear your field experiences, and some of you’re Assumptions, Cold reads, Frames, Sexual Hoops etc.

Vercetti